You’re Not Whipped


Whipped? It’s a slang term.

It’s a common belief that when a man answers to every whim of his wife, he is “whipped”.  For example, imagine that we see a couple shopping in a dress shop. The husband/boyfriend is following his wife/girlfriend around, and is carrying her purse while she is empty handed. As she shops, he is forced to pay for and carry all her purchases while she remains empty handed. This my friends, is “whipped”.

So where am I going with this? Good question.

Sometimes we mistake “serving” our wives with being “whipped”. At first glance one might sound just as bad as the other, but it really isn’t. In fact, it’s the opposite. When your wife forces you to cater to her every whim, and threatens to leave or becomes difficult when you don’t comply, that’s a bad situation. It’s more than being whipped, and it might be time to seek some Christian counseling for your relationship.

Serving your wife is a different story, and I’m not referring to making breakfast in bed or carrying her purse around (which if you must carry, make sure to hold it like a football). Serving your wife can be as simple as doing things for her that you know she hates doing. Like her portion of the chores in the house, or opening her car door. Maybe it could be sending her off for a spa day, or taking her on the shopping spree she’s always wanted. Serving your wife also consists of being her spiritual council. Spending time in devotion, and leading her as you seek Christ together.

As men, sometimes we think of these actions as being whipped. I mean, what do we get in return? When is she going to do my chores? Or send me to a football game with my boys? While she might, she’s not required to. See as men, we are the leaders. With being a leader, you have great responsibility. There are tons of scriptures in the Bible about this, but I’m not going to bombard you this time. Maybe another day. I know for a fact that some of the people who read my blog aren’t Christians, and I’m just trying to give you real talk right now in a quick nugget (I’m sure my ministry friends will smack me later). Just know that women look to us to be a great many things to them. We are not just leaders and providers, we are also friends. Be your wife’s friend, and I promise, she might just send you to that football game.